Selecting a Bride or a Groom for Marriage is a much responsible and time consuming process. This part of the wedding process some times turns to be embarrassing and some times very interesting. Whatever the selection is, finally for many of the married couples, their marriage turns to be successful and they become more or less attached to one another, in the long run. In a few cases, where the selection is done, approved and adopted for marriage half-heartedly, the married life turns to go berserk, unsatisfied, and quarrelsome. For them their marriage turns to be an utter failure.

The Matrimonial set up in Asian Countries is different from Western Countries. More or less the Bride or Groom Selecting procedures are same in countries like India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and Sri Lanka. Here, in these Asian countries, parents take a lead and guide their children in all aspects of their life, including that of Matrimonial, Marriage or Wedding, selecting a Bride for their son or selecting a Groom for their daughter. The children brought up in an obedient atmosphere tend to heed to the advices completely relying on parents for the selection of their spouse, for they have immense trust on their parents at all counts.

It has also been noticed that a few parents while behaving over-responsibly in order to cater to their personal egoism, become very adamant in the matters of Marriage or Matrimony, do not allow their children choosing a life partner of their choice. This happens for several reasons. The parents having some other girl or boy in their potentiality list due to innumerable factors such as, friendship or relationship with the proposed Bride of Groom, formation of a better idea regarding the Boy or Girl due to his or her parents' status and living standards, behavior, beauty, piety, the potential Bride or Groom possesses, respect they demonstrate towards the elders, education, earnings etc. It is quite natural that the parents having seen and explored all matters with regard to the new relationship they are going to enter into with the other family, expect their children to understand and recognize their caring nature obeying them and accepting their proposal for marriage put forward by them for their children.

When the necessity arises of searching a Groom for a daughter's Marriage, the parents leave not a stone unturned to sort out and select a Gem of a person amongst all available Grooms, and enable their daughter to get The Best Choice for her, for they expect that their child leads a happiest married life with all the parental blessings, love and care from her husband, comfort and guidance from her in-laws. Many a caring parents pass several sleepless nights in the worries of the wedding of their daughters.

A few children, not realizing the care and caution demonstrated by their parents in Matrimonial matters, become desperate and follow a rebellious path to attain what they think is good for their married life. This happens because of loss of hope on their parents, over and unjustified attachment with the potential spouse of their choice, heeding some one's advice instead of the advice of their parents, instigation by their friends circle, and so on.

Whatever the reason for disagreement between the parents and children is, the problem of this sort of Matrimonial selection becomes a burden to the family and proves to be fatal in a few cases, where personal ego of the children or of the parents plays a main roll resulting in devastation of parental relationship, some times costing the life itself of the children.

In the light of this type of family set up, while it is predominantly necessary for the parents to take into confidence their children while making a selection of a Bride or Groom, it is also the duty of the children to trust the parents for Matrimonial spouse selection process, taking into consideration the care and caution their own parents demonstrated all these years after giving birth to them, fostering them in the healthiest and richest possible way, schooling them in a selective manner, clothing them to make them appear a well dressed person, medicating them with due care when they fall sick, guiding them whenever they tend to slip from the ladder of their life, aiding and abetting them throughout their youth. A person at the stage of becoming a Bride or Groom at a certain age must not forget and set aside his parents in making a very crucial decision of his or her life. Certainly, the parents never wish their children any calamity that may befall during their life time, due to ill-advised and improper selection done without consultation.

The parents must also shed any egoism and allow their children if they so wish to, at least select a person of their choice and inform them for parental approval and further Matrimonial process. If a confidence in the minds of the children is created, the chances of children going astray could be thwarted. Thus satisfying everyone's choice at home and set for a Happy Marriage Function.

The procedures of Selecting a Bride or a Groom differ in all Religions, Regions and Communities. We will discuss about these in the next article.

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